Grunt! Grunt! Guys don’t cry

30 Jan

Guilty of feelings?

In the movie ‘First Blood’, Rambo finishes his battle with all his army skills, trained to be a killing machine. Cold and silent. No emotions.

In the end the killing machine was interrupted by sobbing when he finally breaks down in front of his army colonel.

The pent up bubble had burst.

The movie had a message. Both the colonel and his soldier were human too and not entirely made up of rock and steel.

So, if guys are not supposed to cry then why did nature give us tear glands?

To flush out foreign particles in the eye?

As babies did we never cry? I am sure we were cranky.

It’s not a bad idea to get emotional as long as we don’t overdo it. Emotions clean up the soul and this is not to say that we’ve got to cry at the sound of every fart.

Now women and men do the same things but differently.

Women dance. We do

Women sing. We do

Women laugh. We do

Women get angry. We do

Women dress. We do.

Women do xyz. We do

Women cook. We do

Both men and women express but the expressions also carry the sex of their expressing persons. The styles differ, unique to each other

Songs are emotions

Movies are emotions

Art is emotions

Both women and men are involved.

It depends on the style whether it’s wearing pants or skirts.

And it happens in real life too. Men who go through a rough patch can cry because they know best what pain is. Ever seen Billionaires cry?


Posted by on January 30, 2011 in STRONG SILENT


3 responses to “Grunt! Grunt! Guys don’t cry

  1. Shimolee Shah

    February 4, 2011 at 1:58 pm

    That is so true. I don’t know where does the whole idea of guys shouldn’t cry comes from. Guys have emotions just like girls and sometimes it feels good to be able to cry it out. I am taking a Feminist Theory class right now and it challenges a lot of beliefs that society puts into us. A lot of people in my class are starting to look at women differently now, with more respect after receiving the knowledge about why women are the way they are and how they have been treated from years. But for me its different, I have always been a feminist so this class doesn’t surprise me but just gives me more knowledge on the core of all this. But for some reason it makes me look at men differently because now I know why they act the way they do. Society and culture has given some roles to men and women and when we don’t act the way we are expected to act, then we are looked down upon. Man has been given the role of being a care taker, being strong and powerful. No one knows where in the history these separation of gender and roles started but that is the reason why “guys are not supposed to cry”. It is hard to get rid of these beliefs and double standard but we have definitely come a long way and hopefully one day there wont be any separation of roles and expectations which will open up new doors and possibilities for both men and women.

  2. oxydizer

    February 4, 2011 at 7:36 pm

    You’re right. And like you said man has been given the role of a caretaker and that started a long time ago with a history behind. I’ll write a post on that. There IS a logical sequence to what happened. Just like you are a feminist I am trying the liberal path. And my blog is about exploring those myths. Any myth that’s challenged- sensibly- with logic-becomes a liberator. We’ve got to be free from a log of baggage and this blog of mine is the pressure valve. Thanks for reading this post. Your comments are always welcome, a pleasure.

  3. laurafee

    February 5, 2011 at 5:40 pm

    wow i could not agree more! men are human and cry too. great comments here!


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